UPDATE #2 (RESOLUTION):
While we were all getting caught up amid the #BeautifulMajesticDolphin life yesterday, I almost forgot about the little security breach we had. (TL:DR A 12 year old fangirl went to Ryan’s house, took pictures, and took some items off his front porch.)
This morning, I was going through my Gmail inbox - and WHOA: Lo and behold, the little junior stalker sent me an email. I had already done some investigating and determined she wasn’t a real threat to the safety of Ryan, but this was unexpected.
Many members of “the fandom” had sent her abusive messages, and I told you all not to bully her. (Or anyone, for that matter.) Beautiful Majestic Dolphins don’t bully anyone. That’s not beautiful, or majestic.
(Below is her email to me.)
I can’t thank you enough for your support when I know just well enough you never had much of a reason to defend me. I also can’t apologize enough for what did happen, and I’m not sure how I got to the point in which I thought it acceptable to invade someone I love and support’s privacy like I did.
I hope you know I completely regret that decision, an I understand how one can act as their own enemy in that extent. If I wasn’t the perpetrator, I know I would be one of the fans writing you, and I really can’t explain enough how sorry I am to have caused such panic to you and to everyone aware.
I would do anything I could right now to make sure I’ve supported Ryan’s safety, and I’m glad to know this didn’t come as too much of a burden for either of you.
After thinking about it for a moment, I knew exactly what needed to be said, and done. Being a Beautiful Majestic Dolphin is more than just Photoshopping your face onto a dolphin, and parading around the internet spamming Twitter with a hashtag. So then I wrote my reply…
Thank you for your apology. After speaking with Ryan yesterday, informing him of the situation, and then thinking about it - we made a decision. That decision was to show compassion and understanding.
I understand you’re a young girl, and a really big fan of Ryan’s music. I work with Ryan on a professional level, but we’re also really close friends. You should know that Ryan is a really good person - and that’s why he’s one of my best friends. He understands what it’s like to be a really big fan of a band. We’ve all been where you are at one point in our lives.
Right now, it is important to us to put out positive energy. The reason you went to Ryan’s house was because presumably, you wanted to know more about him. If you learned something about him today, you learned he is a genuine person, and he surrounds himself with good people. We’re all just here to spread positive vibes and make sure everyone is enjoying the music.
Everyone makes mistakes. Me. Ryan. Tru. Danny. Everyone around us in our social circle. We’re no different than you, or anyone else. We’re not mad, upset, or anything like that. As long as you learned something from this, no harm was done.
Ryan is going to be touring again after we put out this new album. If you see he’ll be in a city near you, send me an email here (EMAIL REDACTED), and I’ll make sure you get two tickets to the show.
Thank you again for the apology.
Yes, you read that correctly. If she decides she wants to go see Ryan’s next tour, I’ll personally be seeing to it that she receives two tickets. Why? Because everyone makes mistakes. We’re all human here, and if we all just went around being spiteful and vengeful towards people who did us wrong, we wouldn’t be getting anywhere.
This does NOT mean if you show up at Ryan’s house you’ll get free concert tickets. I repeat: Do not show up to Ryan’s house, or the home of anyone else you don’t know. If you are a fan of a band, show them how much you support their music by purchasing albums, merchandise, and screaming as loud as you can at their shows. Do not go to their home - understand? If you show up at Ryan’s home in the future, expect serious consequences to your actions.
So why in the world would I give someone who made such an egregious error two free concert tickets? Because showing compassion and understanding is one of the most powerful things you can do.
Was I initially upset and a little angry when I found out someone had violated Ryan’s personal space? Of course I was. I spend a lot of time at Ryan’s house too. I want to know when I’m eating pizza in his kitchen, that strangers aren’t around in the front yard. That’s sort of scary, you know?
I believe Alysha learned her lesson, and in reading this, you all learned something too:If you make a mistake, and you know you’ve made a mistake - apologize. It might not fix everything immediately, but it’s always a great start.
Today’s #BeautifulMajesticDolphin Lesson: People will respect you if you show compassion and understanding, even when it’s hard to do.
What am I hoping you all learn from this? I’m just like the rest of you. Anyone with Google can find Ryan’s address. It’s not hard to do. But I’m not Ryan. I’m his friend and business associate. I spend time over there. Ryan is a celebrity, and he’s hard to access - so sometimes he seems a little less “real”, so it’s hard to think of him like a person. I completely understand that.
But I’m not a celebrity. I’m just like the rest of you. I drive a normal car. I have a modest apartment. I play around on Tumblr to kill time. I might work with a lot of celebrities, but that doesn’t mean I am one, or ever want to be one. I see what they go through, and I’m really happy I can go grocery shopping without being bothered.
Please understand that Ryan has friends, like me, Danny, Tru, Dan, Biker Dan, Tom, etc. When we’re walking to our cars at night, we don’t want to wonder who is around. That’s not a safe feeling, and I feel like we deserve to feel safe.
Thanks for being fans. Everyone involved in music, whether it’s me (on the business side), or Ryan (the talent side) really appreciates the fans out there, appreciating our hard work.